💬 Sasural ka Tourture

Meri Kahani Mera naam Sana hai. Shaadi ke baad main bohat umeedon ke saath apne sasural aayi thi. Mujhe laga tha ke meri saas meri maa jaisi hongi aur main unki izzat aur mohabbat se dil jeet loongi. Lekin meri zindagi kuch time bad ek aise imtihan mein badal gayi jiska maine kabhi tasavvur bhi nahi kiya tha. Meri saas har baat mein mujh par tanqeed karti thi agar main khana banati to kehti, “Tumhein kuch banana hi nahi aata.” Agar main ghar saaf karti to kehti, “Tum sirf dikhawa karti ho.” Main subah se raat tak ghar ke kaam mein lagi rehti, lekin unhein kabhi mera kaam acha nahi lagta tha. Kuch hi mahino mein unka rawayya aur sakht ho gaya. Woh mujhe sab ke saamne zaleel karti thi mere maikay walon ke baare mein buri baatein kehti aur har choti baat ka ilzam mujh par laga deti thi Kabhi kabhi woh mujhe khana bhi nahi deti thi aur kehti thi ke pehle saara kaam khatam karo. Main bhooki aur thaki hui chup chaap apne kamre mein ja kar roti rehti. Mera shohar aksar ghar se bahar rehta tha. Jab main usse apni takleef batati, to woh kehta, “Ammi ka dil mat dukhao. Tumhein adjust karna hoga.” Main chahti thi ke woh meri baat samjhe, lekin har baar wo ulta mujhe hi samjhata thaf. Ek din meri saas ne gusse mein mujhe dhakka diya. Main zameen par gir gayi aur mere haath par chot aa gayi. Us waqt mujhe samajh aaya ke yeh sirf sakht alfaaz nahi, balki zulm tha. Main bohat dari hui thi, lekin mere andar kahin na kahin himmat bhi paida ho rahi thi. Maine apni badi behen ko sab kuch bataya. Usne mujhe samjhaya ke kisi bhi rishte mein izzat aur hifazat zaroori hoti hai. Zulm sehna sabr nahi hota, aur madad maangna sharm ki baat nahi. Uski baaton ne mujhe apni zindagi ke baare mein dobara sochne ka hausla diya. Maine apne shohar se pur-sukoon lekin mazboot alfaaz mein baat ki. Maine kaha ke main ghar bachana chahti hoon, lekin apni beizzati aur maar-peet bardasht nahi kar sakti. Agar woh mera saath de, to hum mil kar masla hal kar sakte hain; lekin agar woh khamosh raha, to mujhe apni hifazat ke liye faisla karna hoga. Meri baat ke baad kuch waqt ke liye ghar ka mahaul badla, lekin main jaanti thi ke asal tabdeeli tabhi aayegi jab meri hudood ka ehtram kiya jayega. Maine zaroori samaan aur documents alag rakhna shuru kiye aur apne bharosemand rishtedaron se rabta qaim rakha. Dheere dheere mujhe yaqeen hone laga ke main be-bas nahi hoon. Aaj bhi meri zindagi aasaan nahi, lekin ab main khamosh zulm sehne wali aurat nahi hoon. Maine seekha hai ke aurat ki izzat kisi ke ehsaan ki mohtaj nahi hoti. Har aurat ko mohabbat, aman aur ehtram ke saath jeene ka haq hai. Agar koi aurat meri kahani parh kar apni takleef pehchan sake, to main usse sirf itna kehna chahti hoon: tum akeli nahi ho. Apni hifazat ko pehli tarjeeh do, kisi bharosemand shakhs se baat karo, aur zulm ko apni qismat samajh kar khamosh mat raho.

Kabhi kabhi kisi ka bewafa hona hamari haar nahi hoti, apne shohar ko nahi, khud ko chun kar apni asli jeet hasil ki, hats off sister...

mere khayal se logon ke pas islamic knowledge kam hone ki wajha se ye sab hota hai, agar knowledge hoti to wo dusron ki beti to apni beti samjhte, aj kal to bahot sare ghar aise hai jo bahu ko noukrani samjhte hai

Sana behen, aapka dard padh kar dil bhar aaya, Allah aapko is mushkil waqt mein sabr aur himmat de. Har zulm sehna zaroori nahi hota, aap bhi izzat aur sukoon ki haqdar hain. Afreen❤️

Allah hidayat de aise logon ko warna marde

shanazbegum wrote:mere khayal se logon ke pas islamic knowledge kam hone ki wajha se ye sab hota hai, agar knowledge hoti to wo dusron ki beti to apni beti samjhte, aj kal to bahot sare ghar aise hai jo bahu ko noukrani samjhte hai

Islamic knowledge ke saat saat education bhi zaroori hai, koi bhi pada likha insaan aisi harkate nai karta

shanazbegum wrote:mere khayal se logon ke pas islamic knowledge kam hone ki wajha se ye sab hota hai, agar knowledge hoti to wo dusron ki beti to apni beti samjhte, aj kal to bahot sare ghar aise hai jo bahu ko noukrani samjhte hai

i really agree with you sister

Reshma.sultana wrote:i really agree with you sister

even Islamic knowledge jisko hai bahot sare aise hi hai, mere friend ke ghar ke pas ek masjid hai us masjid ke imam sahab ka rawaiya apni bahu ke saath bilkhul na khabile bardasht hai, bahot hi gandi language use karte hai wo apni bahu se

Hamare muashre main aurat ko wo maqam nai mila jo milna chahaiye tha, agar koi ladki sasural main apna haq mangne ke liye ladti hai to wo batameez bad aqlaq samjhe jati hai, agar khamush hojaye to sasural wale aur zulm karte hai, zulm ke khilaf awaz uthana zaroori hai warna sasural aur husband ke rahemo karam par zindagi katni padti hai, haq mangne se nahi milta aj kal.